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Now let me start off by just saying that this is all my opinion. Not everyone will see it my way or some might get offended by what I say. Totally fine everyone is entitled to their opinion. But, for me, the feeling is ridiculous. The reasons that lead to it are stupid. It is such a waste of my time to ever feel guilty for the type of mother I am or how I parent. I’m not saying it isn’t easy to fall victim to mom guilt, not at all. So much can contribute to feeling like I’m coming up short but I always remind myself that I’m a damn good mom! Being a mother is hard af! Why make it harder on myself with guilt? I refuse to let that shit get to me and if this blog post can help just one mama remember the bad ass she is well then I’m happy af!
HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
When I had Valentina there were certain things that I wanted to implement in how we raised her. Set schedules, organic food, no technology, etc. And I did do that.. for a time period, then it got harder to do with work and every day life. I wanted the “best” for her and to be the mom that could do it all. But it just wasn’t realistic so I let some things go and did what I could do. The main thing I wanted for her was a schedule. I learned from a class I took that it would be so helpful to her and myself if she was on one. So I made that my focus and let the other things I wanted to do as mom fade. That’s just one example. But my point is I knew I couldn’t do it all so I changed my expectations. I knew I would be happy with myself as a mother because I could easily meet them daily.
Wooooo, this is a good one. It’s so easy to look on social media and see these moms that go all out with crafts, cook every day, do sensory play time and what not. Like damn, they are killin it! Hard not to think about the things you aren’t doing for your kids lol. Comparison is the thief of joy, IN ALL ASPECTS OF LIFE. Especially motherhood. But guess what? These mamas have different lives than I do. We are not the same. And that’s completely ok!! I know I’m doing what I think is best for my kids and that’s all I can do. What I might do for my kids can’t be done for other moms because we have different schedules, different financial situations, different beliefs! Am I less of a mom because I give my kids food with sugar? Lol no I’m not. I do a shit ton for my kids and they are healthy and happy. That’s all that matters!
Honestly the fact that I should feel guilty for dropping off my kid to my mom so I can have a little time to myself is stupid. If you’ve been on a plane before they tell you to put your air mask thing on before helping others in case of an emergency. Why? Because if you don’t have any oxygen to breathe how can you help others? This is basically what making yourself a priority does for you. I need a break every now and then because it gets exhausting with being a mom, fiancé, etc. Just getting a pedicure or an hour alone can do so much for me. I feel better, relaxed, happier, etc. And guess what that means? I can be a better mom to my kids! Happy mom, happy kids!
I’M THE BEST FOR MY KIDS
Best for last, right? No one knows my kids better than I do. No one can love them like I do. So many moms out there that are awesome and maybe do motherhood better than me. But guess what? They aren’t me! I know if I asked my kids if they could choose between me and some other mom they would choose me. Every. Single. Time. So while I might let my kid watch Cocomelon while I try to get work done and Becky down the street gives her kid undivided attention, we are both good moms. I was chosen to be the mom of these amazing kids. That alone just kicks any guilt away of what I do or don’t do for them.
Again, I get mom guilt trying nudge its way into my head all the time but I try really hard not to let it sink in. I remember all the reasons why I shouldn’t feel guilty. And I hope this can maybe help any mama out there struggling with that nasty feeling. Kick that shit to the curb and remind yourself who you are!